GIVING IN TO THE SYSTEM
1 Peter 2:4
And coming to Him as to a living stone, rejected by men, but choice and
precious in the sight of God
"Pastor, I'm a loser," a high school boy told me dejectedly. He
explained that he wanted to be a star football player, but had been cut
from the team. Instead of being in the spotlight as an athlete, he had to
settle for being a member of the pep band. And compared to star
quarterbacks, clarinet players were losers at his school.
The largest group of people today respond to rejection like this boy
did: by simply giving in to the system. They continue their efforts to try to
earn approval, but the inevitable rejection by others prompts them to
believe that they really are unlovable and rejectable. The system says
that the best, the strongest, the most beautiful, and the most talented are
"in." Those who don't fit those categories--which includes most of us--are
"out," and we succumb to society's false judgment of our worth. As a
result, a large segment of the population is plagued by feelings of
worthlessness, inferiority and self-condemnation.
This person may have trouble relating to God. If he blames God for
his state, it will be difficult to trust Him. "You made me a lowly clarinet
player instead of a star quarterback," he complains. "If I trust You with
other areas of my life, how do I know You won't make me a loser there
By giving in to the system's false judgment, this person can only
look forward to more and more rejection. He has bought the lie and he
even rejects himself. Therefore, any success or acceptance which comes
his way will be questioned or doubted on the basis of what he already
believes about himself.
God has not equally distributed gifts, talents or intelligence, but He
has equally distributed Himself. Our sense of worth comes from knowing
who we are as children of God. "See how great a love the Father has
bestowed upon us, that we should be called children of God; and such we
are" (1 John 3:1).
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You for creating me the way You have
and for making me Your child. I find my worth in You.